14 Signs Your Perfectionism Has Gotten Out Of Control (
link): Wow, this article truly hits close to home. Just by skimming through the article, I could easily relate to 11 of the 14 signs that were mentioned. I have always been eager to please others, especially those older than me, and I have always put others before. Now, I believe this is not to say that pleasing and putting others before me is bad, but it is all about the balance. My dad always tells me and my sister, "Too much of something is bad just as too little of something is not good as well." I sometimes forget to consider my own thoughts and needs in the pursue of pleasing others. I feel like I have been a perfectionist since first grade when I was first exposed to the importance of grades. Therefore, being a perfectionist for the past 14 years has become tiring and unhealthy. College has slowly but surely taught me the reality of it being okay to not be involved in everything and that it is okay to not be a straight A student. It is almost like choosing your battles. Since I have been such a perfectionist for the majority of my life, the tendencies of a perfectionist still hits close to home. However, I think it is about choosing my battles and becoming a perfectionist in some instances and not having to be one in other situations. One of the signs from this article that stood out to me was "you are a big procrastinator." Not until this article did it hit me that procrastination relates to perfectionism. I put things off until the last minute because of the fear of being judged and not being good enough. Also, procrastinating also gives perfectionists an
excuse if their writing, project, assignment, timeliness, etc. is not good enough. The phrase "I did not have enough time to do my best so please do not judge me so harshly." can be used by perfectionists and I know I have been guilty of that. Overall, I believe that realization, action, and balance are key to become a controlled perfectionists that can efficiently and gracefully handle feedback.
6 Bad Mental Habits That Sabotage Your Success (
link): I liked this article because it is straight to the point. It discusses the bad mental habits and then gives a solution on how to fix it. The habit that struck me the most was the habit of "catastrophizing the future." I am guilty of thinking of the worst possible solutions to scenarios before those scenarios even happen. I admit to exploring the negative answers to the "What if?" questions just to psych myself out. As human beings, this is part of human nature. However, the reaction to psyching ourselves is up to us. We can either move forward or go backwards. Overall, this article pinpoints the small things that affect our success and that it is up to how we train our minds so that it becomes an ally and not an enemy.
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